Guest Post by Lynne Silver: Keeping the Sparks in a Marriage


Keeping the sparks in a marriage

I have a confession.

I made a mistake as an erotic romance writer. Well, to be honest, I'm not sure you can call it a mistake, more of an obstacle. You see, I wrote a novella about a married couple. Not a newly married couple or a historical married couple who'd been separated by war or evil relatives for a span of years.

No, I wrote a story about a long committed married couple. Why is this a mistake you ask. Well, my stories are supposed to be hot, the steamier the better. And as everyone knows, married couples don't have hot sex anymore, right?

Without getting into first hand details, I beg to differ. Couples who have been together for a long time have a comfort level. They may be willing to experiment without fear of being mocked for their dark desires.

In Conquered Match, book two of the Coded for Love, series, Thea and Ryan Lopez, have been married for a long time and some of the spark has gone out of the marriage. Only Ryan didn't know. He thought things were going well. He didn't know his wife, Thea, was looking for more from him. As a genetically matched couple, they are scientifically proven to be perfect for each other. So what goes wrong?

For starters, Thea betrays Ryan in an act so horrible, he considers leaving her. Yeah, good move, Lynne. Brilliant idea to write a 10,000 word short story that’s supposed to feature some hot loving, instead showing a couple about to break up. Oops.

So how'd I do it? I gave Thea a really really good reason for her heinous act, and I gave Ryan an outlet to express his hurt. My agent was a little worried when I told her I'd written a BDSM story with an angry husband. I think she worried about abuse or rape scenarios.

It is my sincere hope I unlock a new side to the sexual relationship between the couple. One that keeps their marriage alive.

What do you think? Do you like erotic stories between married couples? What are some of your Faves? I love What She needs by Anne Calhoun.

Or do you prefer reading about new love in its infancy?

By day, Lynne Silver lives the suburban soccer mom life; volunteering with the PTA, doing laundry and working. By night she enters the sensuous world of alpha males and passionate heroines.
She calls the nation’s capital home and lives in an old fixer-upper with her husband and their two sons. When not writing romance, she reads it. Lots of it. Over and over and over again, preferably with a bag of M&Ms in hand.
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Here's a look at her latest book Heated Match:

Blurb: A lead byline and a cover story were what journalist Loren Stanton wanted most. Until she meets genetically enhanced soldier, Adam Blacker. Team leader of a top-secret covert ops group, Adam never wanted to search for his genetic match, but whenever he gets close to Loren, things turn hot quickly, making him forget every reason he had for retaining his bachelor status. After a scorching night together, neither is in any doubt they are connected at the DNA-deep level, although both fear the high stakes of what it means to be together. Loren gives Adam two weeks to prove he is bred for more than war. He must show he is coded for love.

SAHM to four rowdy kids. Avid reader and blogger.


  1. Thanks for having me! I'm thrilled to be here.

  2. Great post Lynne. I think sex between married couples can be just as hot as non-married couples. It worked for 50 Shades. I think if people like the characters, their marital status doesn't matter. Good luck with your book. I can't wait to read it.


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